When you’re advocating for something important to you, your emotions can run high. Whether you are a leader advocating for change you...

I bet you don’t always get what you want. Me neither. Whether it’s professionally or personally, big things or small, there are things we...

“Everyone tells me to ‘use my voice’. But no one is listening…….” My coaching client added this at the end of our first hour together. I...

If you want to win someone’s attention, loyalty or engagement, make them feel significant. Every one of us wants to feel like we matter,...

Let’s Negotiate You can be a better negotiator. You negotiate every day–for more money, more time, more compassion, or more help. It...

Later today, I am giving a talk on mindfulness to a group of about 400 lawyers. How am I going to sell mindfulness to a group of...

Medical malpractice cases are fascinating and tragic. Two people who have known each other, trusted each other, and touched each other,...

I write this on the day after Christmas, so naturally I’m thinking about gratitude. I’ve never said this out loud before, but I have a...

In the courtroom, a good advocate knows the power of Could Be. Every witness could be the key to a win. Every piece of evidence could be...

Last week we started exploring HOW to be your own best advocate. I told you that in order to be a strong advocate for yourself, your...

Can you believe that this challenge is over? I’ll be sending an email this weekend about the surprises I’d promised but for now–our last...

It helps to detach from your outcomes . You are not your failures. You are not your successes either. You aren’t this argument, this...

Every time I get up to cross examine an adverse witness, I remind myself of his dignity . Every human being has it, simply by virtue of...

In my job as a trial attorney, I see more conflict than collaboration. While I work with my team to prepare for trial, the actual case is...

I used to think trials had to be serious things. Often my cases involve patients with catastrophic injuries–brain damage, paralysis, and...

“God could have made us stone creatures, tree creatures, sea creatures, winged creatures, but God made us speech creatures instead. Human...

I don’t win my cases with arguments. In any given trial, the opportunities to argue are few, and they often happen outside the presence...

You can’t get anywhere without yeses. There’s no way forward unless you give yourself permission to move forward. It’s like life is one...

We all have to be able to overcome objections as well. Other people are bound to object to what you do, or how you do it. They object,...

You want it all . So do I. We want to be successful, whatever that means to us. We want our families to be successful. We want more...